[Guest Post] What’s the real noble truth of love, Attachment vs Genuine love

Prologue

Buddhism defines love into separation of attachment love vs genuine love

We are almost never satisfied after an argument outbreak. We felt tired, exhausted thinking over and over again on what went wrong. What should we correct, what we deemed is right and we refuse to change for our other half. Trying to think what our other half is thinking, we want them to change, we want them to understand the pain we go through, we need them to understand.

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Rule 9: Be Fucking Precise


Today marks a happy day as I just started working after a long break from 2018 Lunar New Year. It’s the year of the dog and the accompanying element is earth. And I have found something so important that I intend to add this rule to my Top 10 List. Recall that Top 10 List (click here for Rule 8) is my attempt to summarize everything in life that I deem important. The project started in 2011 (first post back then). And this will be the 9th rule. My game plan is to further refine the rules after gathering 10 rules. I might change/enhance the rules along the way. Hopefully by the time I’m 70 years old these 10 rules will be as solid as gold.

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What Makes You Happy?

Daniel Kahneman, the famous psychologist explained that we have two selves, (a) the experiencing self and (b) the remembering self. 

The experiencing self lives in the present and is only concerned with the present moment while the remembering self is like the judge who decides everything for us.

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Between choice and circumstance

Scenario – 2 people of similar background but one rises to the occasion while the other falls into despair. What would you attribute the cause to? Choice? Circumstantial/ contextual influence (i.e one person is being ‘lucky’ being at the right place, right time?). What is your belief of the scenario of what actually happened?

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