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The Vipassana Meditation & The Quietest Room in the World

April 14th, 2012 by dimpledbrain

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” 

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.  

“I don’t much care where–” said Alice. 

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat. 

“–so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as an explanation. 

“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”

(Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland).

Most people, if at all, only talk about personal mission. How writing down stuff will help us achieve it. I for one is a recent culprit – click here for my previous post.

The truth as I learnt it is (before you guys get the idea that it’s OK NOT to do one – it’s not…have you done yours by the way? Click here.) there is another twist to it. After completing the personal goal piece, we need to pen down some names that we think can help us achieve our goals. Not in a manipulative way mind you, but genuine connections that we need to help us achieve those goals. For example, if I am passionate about the capital market, do I know someone from the industry that I can bounce some ideas off. And if not maybe I can start off with a friend’s friend before going for the friend’s friend’s friend…you get the idea. 

Connecting with strangers may seem like a nightmare but there are techniques that we can learn to be the next socialite…

  1. The art of small talk – Keith Ferrazzi in his bestselling book Never Eat Alone tells us of 3 fail proof ideas to connect with anyone. Health, Wealth and Children. For example, what supplements that we can take to boost our health, how to save money and if you are married with children, how to overcome some common problems in bringing up the kids. These are genuine topics that we don’t need to be pretentious about and how such topics can put both parties at ease. 
  2. Share your passion & be genuine – I got this one wrong for a long time. Sharing your passion is another good conversation starter. But if the other person does not reciprocate move on to the next topic. If all else fails, five words that never do –“You’re wonderful. Tell me more.” Being genuine may sound like exposing one’s vulnerability. But genuineness begets sincerity and sincerity begets friendship/ instant connection.
  3. If we know what our personal goals are, finding our tribe is the next natural step. Joining conferences or training classes with the aim of connecting with a few others will be important in building our circle(s) of excellence. 

My personal observation is this – there is a group of high achievers at one end of the spectrum and another group of socialites at the other end. The first group lacks the interpersonal skill to help them connect to others who can help them further their goals and the second group overconnects with people randomly without a sense of personal goal. The secret is blatantly obvious – marry the two and VOILA!

To end, let’s go back to the title of this blog that has deceived you into clicking onto it. The Vipassana meditation is a 10 day course that helps you find yourself in silence. Since the time of Buddha, Vipassana has been handed down, to the present day, by an unbroken chain of teachers. (But it has got nothing to do with religion).

A friend that I met today shared with me that the quietest room in the world, if you google it, is a dark sound proof room that apparently no one can stand for more than 45 minutes!

The way I look at it is both the Vipassana meditation and the quietest room in the world share one core message – that finding your true calling, finding your blue flame and finding your real passion is what really matters at the end of the day. A will to meaning is (click here for the post) what makes us humans after all.

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