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Tripwires

December 6th, 2014 by dimpledbrain

How do we go about setting ‘tripwires’ in all aspects of our lives?

If life is a journey with a 70-year timeframe*, we are bound to make many decisions. (Click here on how to make effective decisions).

What we then need is a mechanism to snap us back at the most critical moment, ensuring that we don’t miss a chance to cut our losses or to maximize our opportunities**.

From the perspective of our brains, we are unique. Our circumstances feel particular to us. From the perspective of the universe though we are utterly typical. Problem is, when our predictions and opinions clash with the universe’s averages, the universe usually wins.

The goal of a tripwire is to jolt us out of our unconscious routines and make us aware that we have a choice to make.

A very good example of a tripwire is cutting loss @ x% in all the investments we make without any exception.

The top 5 regrets of the dying:

(1) I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

(2) I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

(3) I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

(4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

(5) I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Hopefully this list of the dying can inspire us to design our tripwires in life.

Interestingly, all the 5 regrets (except arguably # 2) are in the form of ‘not doing something’, rather than ‘doing something that turned out to be wrong’. E.g. I regretted that I did not lead a life true to myself, I regretted I did not express my feelings, I regretted I did not stay in touch with my friends and I regretted I did not let myself be happier.

So with this in mind, let’s design some kickass tripwires.

 

p/s:

* or the average lifespan of one’s life.

**read Decisive by Chip Heath and Dan Heath

 

 

 

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